Wealth is a mindset. It must be cultivated. Wealth actually has very little to do with how much money is in a bank account or how many assets a person owns. This is why the wealthiest can feel terrifyingly poor and why the poorest can feel abundantly rich.
For the last couple months I’ve been feeling concerned about finances. We have some large expenses coming up (one child going to college and another to a year long gap program) and my stress levels have been increasing steadily week after week. I could feel the shadows of anxiety lurking close behind. Anxiety is not my friend and I’ve danced with it enough to know that it serves no one but itself.
Yesterday morning I felt some clarity as I awoke. In order to create a shift, I needed to take action. I needed to become an active part of the solution rather than waiting for something to circumstantially change.
So I did what I know to work. I sat on my hotel bed (we are teaching our Toronto tiny house workshop) and began a meditation practice I learned earlier this year from Tony Robbins. In brief, it’s an active breath practice (hyper oxygenating the body for about one minute) followed by about 5 minutes of quieting the mind, finished by about 5 minutes of finding the things that I feel gratitude for and bringing them to my heart. That was it. A total investment of about 11 minutes at the most. And things transformed almost instantly.
Gratitude is the anti-venom for the fear of lack. For those of us that tend towards worrying that the things we love could get taken away, actively finding the things that we appreciate about our lives right now is the very best Rx that exists.
The effects were almost immediate. I relaxed deeply for the first time in a few weeks and suddenly felt rich. And most importantly, wealthy where it truly matters…in my heart and being. Because why does it matter if someone has a lot of money in their bank accounts but stays awake at night worrying that it’s all going to someday disappear? Most of us strive for financial security in order to feel a state of security and comfort. But then loose sight of the fact that if we don’t foster our own inner sense of wealth that it doesn’t matter how much money we make.
Our financial situation didn’t change from before I did this meditation to afterwards. The only thing that shifted was my perspective. I nurtured my own inner wealth, and at the end of the day, I would rather feel peaceful, grateful, and internally wealthy than anything else.
So what does this have to do with tiny houses? We have now spoken with literally thousands of people over the last 3+ years who want to go tiny. The #1 reason we’ve heard for the shift? Financial freedom. This was our motivation as well. And certainly it’s a fact that if you lower your housing expenses by moving into tiny that you won’t need to pay as much money for it. And that’s a great thing.
BUT…if we don’t find a way to feel wealthy where it matters (inside ourselves), it doesn’t matter how much money we end up saving and putting into the bank. Sooooo, we may as well start fostering feeling wealthy right now. Fortunately, learning how to foster wealth can be as simple as the meditation practice I described. I would be happy to describe it in further detail if you’re interested (let me know in the comments below).
Wealth is a mindset. It is independent of what your bank account says. Foster it to the best of your ability. You can start this very minute by simply closing your eyes and focusing on three things that you are grateful for, seeing them outside yourself, then with an outstretched arm and open hand, scooping it up and drawing it into your heart. Bring as many things your feel grateful for into your heart as you can possibly handle.
And here’s perhaps the best “side benefit” of all this… aren’t you able to make better decisions on how to spend your money and time when you are coming towards life with a calm state of being rather than mental paralysis caused by even low levels of anxiety? Few things can extinguish the fire of creativity and inspiration more than fear. Find your wealth and inner calm now and open yourself up to a life inspired by abundance!
These were my 3 gratitudes from this morning’s meditation:
1. My beating heart which despite some medical challenges keeps going as strong as it can and giving me an opportunity to be alive.
2. The awareness that wealth is available to me at any time because it’s a state of being.
3. That I get to go home today after two awesome weeks on the road sharing what we know about living tiny.
What are you grateful for right now? If you feel like sharing, we would love to hear in the comments below (or you can email me privately if that feels more comfortable)…